Keeping It Real!

I am human through and through! I have had time to reflect on my “family altercation” last week and realized that all of it could have been avoided had I not stepped in. It seemed to me that getting involved was the right thing to do, to speak for someone who wasn’t speaking for herself. A classic co-dependent move on my part. Although a decision had been made that was ridiculous in my mind, the best action for me to have taken was no action. The decision didn’t involve a life or death situation, just an uncomfortable one that truly didn’t involve me.

So now my mind has moved to wondering how I could have avoided this? Sometimes I can see situations with such intense clarity I sense I am gifted with invaluable insight. At other times I bumble so horribly I wonder how it is I do anything well at all! Such is the life of a human. We are not robots who are programmed to always make the right decision. We are capable of change and making wise choices but we also always carry with us the capacity to blow it. Remember the neural pathways? The unhealthy routes don’t go away, they just get weeds growing through the pavement. They are still accessible. When I’m tired, hungry, in pain, sick, over-extended or ungrounded, I am far more likely to forgo the wise for the unhealthy.

This could easily be a situation where I turn on myself and beat myself up for blowing it. But I won’t. It’s not worth it. Beating myself up never gave me the energy or motivation to change. I’m also not so sure I wish this hadn’t happened. I kind of like my humanity. It keeps me grounded to myself and others. We are all bumbling our way through life. If I ever got to a place where I believed I had arrived, I would lose my compassion for others. I would expect everyone to get where I have gotten. I don’t ever want to be in that space…ever! So, I am embracing my best pic brick wall copy - Version 2humanity…celebrating it! I love being me, flaws and all 🙂

Categories: Acceptance, co-dependency, Emotional Healing, Growth, Healing, Recovery, Relationships, Self-Help | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

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6 thoughts on “Keeping It Real!

  1. Enjoy your blogs. Raw and grass roots. I LOVE real.

    “….keeps my grounded to myself….” That’s a healthy way to look at things and it “clicked” with me. Thank you. Hopefully this adjustment will keep me from kicking myself in the future.

  2. Dr. Jerry Davis

    Thanks so much for your honesty and vulnerability. When we see things more clearly it is so difficult to not try and “fix it.”

  3. Janeen

    Thank you, Karen for that vulnerability today! It’s why I love you and follow your insight and wisdom like I do. The Holy Spirit picks up the pieces and prompts others with truth, even in the midst of our lack of wisdom speaking!! We don’t have to know it all, can’t! We learn and grow up. On and on we go!

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