Benefits of Community Even in a Line at the Airport

Since I have recently begun blogging, you know little about my approach to healing processes. Today you will gain one more piece of the puzzle: community.  I adhere strongly to the belief that positive life change is most effectively achieved when we are in a community of supportive people.  Supportive people are safe (they won’t go blabbing the details of your story to others, they won’t use it to hurt you).  They are genuinely interested in you and your growth as a person.  They are honest with you and kind in their delivery.  They may even have walked in shoes very similar to yours.  There are times when the community is short lived for a very specific purpose and might not possess all these characteristics.

My vacation is over.  On my journey home, I am taking a pit stop in Indianapolis to attend my monthly one day training with Dr. John Townsend.  I went through customs in Charlotte, NC.  Something very odd occurs after going through customs in the United States.  If you have a connecting flight, you have to leave a secure area to go through security to re-enter a secure area.  Does that make any sense to anyone?  It seems like one of the least efficient systems.  So, upon finding the security line I realized there was not much of a chance I was going to make my connection.  I had a half an hour and it was doubtful  the line was going to cooperate within that time frame.  I was not alone.  Many of the people on my flight were also making connections in Charlotte.  So there we were all lined up like cattle worrying about catching our flights.

When it was clear I was going to miss mine, I started talking to those around me about the inefficiency of this system.  Others talked too.  One woman said she regretted not buying Valium while she was in Mexico!  That made several of us laugh.  After we talked, I felt calm.  I wasn’t alone.  Others around me had also been concerned about missing their flight.  We were finding support knowing that others shared our experience.  We will most likely not see each other again, but for that brief moment in time, we were the community we each needed to get through our worry.

Our ideal community is going to be comprised of people we will know far longer than my “security line community” but the experience made an impression on me.  I was reminded of the value of community in helping us process our experiences.  It’s so much better than trying to keep everything to ourselves.  We weren’t designed to carry life’s burdens alone.

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One thought on “Benefits of Community Even in a Line at the Airport

  1. Cherlyn

    I can not agree more of the importance of community in my life, with the constant struggle to not get caught up in my circumstances of my hectic life. I have a community of friends, brothers and sisters and church family that have given me so much and taught me how important community is. I have friends that I can tell them anything and they will still love me and not shame me into guilt. I have friends, who know of my past tendencies of self-harm and self isolation, who challenge me to love myself enough to not harm myself and to stay present and work through things. I also have a friend who has taken me into her home while I’m trying to get back on my feet. And I have a great church family that allow me to come along side them to serve in our community, love and care for their kids, and many other things. And lastly, I have found community with others, as we chat while we wait our turn to get food at Sister Carmen’s food bank or a medical clinic serving low income individuals, who show me that no matter where we are at in our lives we can live better when we come into community with one another.

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